How can you create better and more achievable goals?
Setting goals is the first step in creating the dynamic blueprint of a truly successful life. Goals are the coordinates that help build your map – without them, you can get sidetracked and delayed indefinitely.
The real difficulty with setting goals is the fact that not all goals are created equal and having the wrong ones in place can get you in trouble.
The goals that we set for ourselves are products of our values and beliefs. In order to create worthy and achievable goals there has to be an objective process to separate the good goals from the imperfect ones.
In today’s post I’m going to share with you the various criteria that you can use to evaluate your current life goals.
In neuro-linguistic programming, the process of applying different standards is another way of eliciting feedback. Feedback is central to NLP and is integrated in most (if not all) of its known methods.
Checking Your Goals
A person who creates goals for himself is ready for change and success. However, if his goals are not reasonable or if they are ill-formed, they may end up creating more problems that require even more time, energy and resources to solve.
To avoid this scenario, you need to objectively examine each of your goals using the following guide questions:
- Is my goal formulated in a positive form or a negative form?
A good goal should always be positively stated:
– Permanently lose 30 pounds in three months
– Find a better-paying job in a great company without leaving the state
– Learn a new musical instrument
– Play with my band professionally in a year
Goals that are stated in the positive help condition your mind in seeking out solutions that will then be used to surmount the challenges surrounding the goals.
- Did I personally initiate this goal and is it contingent only on me?
Some goals like losing weight or quitting alcohol are sometimes contingent on other people. If your doctor tells you that you need to lose at least 5 pounds to lower your blood pressure, you may unconsciously use this as an excuse not to excel because the goal wasn’t yours to begin with.
To succeed with a goal, you have to own it – make it 100% yours. You have to find it in yourself to see why you need to accomplish this goal. Your mind would have a difficult time justifying all the difficulties associated with it if the goal has been set only to satisfy someone else’s desire or request.
- Will I know if I have succeeded with my goal?
A reasonable goal should have a specific outcome in place. Without a specific outcome, it’s easy to become demotivated because you don’t know if you’re succeeding or not.
A goal with a definite outcome should have the following characteristics:
– A positive statement of what will happen
– The activity or requirement that needs to be met
– Expected submodalities (e.g. “A permanent weight loss of 40 pounds means I’m going to fit into my old pairs of jeans again!”)
- Do I know the exact context of my goal?
A goal worth chasing is a goal that is clearly defined to begin with. Like writing a news story, you need to ask yourself the Five W’s and One H (Who, What, Where, When, Why and How). Once you have established the realistic context of your goal, you can move forward confidently with full knowledge that you know exactly where you are headed.
- Does the goal present me with the resources needed to accomplish it?
All goals require resources in order to be accomplished. If you have no idea as to what type of resources you will need to start achieving a goal then you can’t move forward with it.
At this point in time, you can either discard it completely or reformulate it so that your goal comes with a definite lt of resources. Once the basic resources have been identified, you may perform the following steps to refine your goal even more:
– Identify your current set of resources
– Identify the resources that are required but are not presently available to you
– Identify past successful goals that made use of the same set of resources
– Believe that you can produce the resources needed and act like you already have them
– Take action!